Leyla Hajiyeva, psychologist of the Mental Health Center of the Ministry of Health: Children should not forget that the grades they receive in classes do not change their parents' attitude towards them.

- Ms. Leyla, first of all, we would like to know what parents should pay attention to in order for their children to have a comfortable time of adaptation to school?

- Of course, children experience a different impression as they enter a new phase of their lives during the school adaptation period. Thus, the new environment they encounter, classmates, classroom, new rules, etc. can cause many children to experience mixed feelings. Also, children are faced with an environment that they clearly do not know.
In order to adapt more easily to this period, and to shorten the adaptation period, certain responsibilities fall on the parents. Of course, it is the main condition that teachers should be sensitive during the adaptation period. They should be more sensitive and patient during the children's adaptation to the new environment, and organize various fun games to make the children love school.

- How to form self-service skills in children?

- Formation of self-care skills (dressing, undressing, eating skills, etc.) in children before starting school is a very important issue. This will support them to meet their needs without help and feel more comfortable.

- How can we help them cope with the lessons?

- It is more appropriate to focus on the habits that the child can do and to support them, rather than to adapt to the new requirements related to school. Punishment and reprimanding of children if they receive low grades during education increases the likelihood of low self-esteem, lying, and cooling off from the learning process.
Compare the child's knowledge and skills in preschool and after school. Praise and support positive knowledge and skills. Although it does not meet the expectations of parents while studying, the level of diligence shown by children in this direction should be evaluated correctly and correctly. In some cases, children are even afraid to inform their parents and other family members about it due to the psychological state and excitement they experience when they receive low grades. In the end, such a situation leads to children being withdrawn and not talking. Children should not forget that the grades they receive in classes do not change the attitude of parents towards them, children are equally loved and supported.
Children who are fussy can't focus on one object for a long time, can't focus on lessons, are forgetful and distracted. They have difficulty paying attention to small details, they can make mistakes in very simple things. At the same time, they have difficulty completing assignments and listening to the teacher. This results in poor performance in school. Therefore, care should be taken that there are as few items as possible on the desk, and that school supplies are not toy-type, but simpler.

- In the end, what would be your advice to parents?

- Sometimes parents compare their children with other children and create false expectations. However, every child has its own potential and ability. Even two children growing up in the same house cannot have the same outlook, knowledge and approach to life. When we compare with other children, we create aggression in our child. Because no one likes to be compared. On the other hand, it causes their self-esteem to drop and they see others as superior to themselves. In order to prevent such situations, parents should form expectations according to the level of knowledge and potential of their children.
In order to raise the level of self-confidence in children, parents should not take over all their work, from the age of infancy, appropriate requirements and habits should be instilled in children for each developmental period. So, these are dressing and undressing in domestic life, keeping their rooms clean, making their beds, helping parents with shopping and daily household chores, etc. can be. At this point, your child will be convinced that you believe in their abilities. The more you show that you believe in their ability to handle the demands placed on them, the more likely they are to handle it and develop confidence.